Sorry, that first post just seemed so basic, it could be a copypasta. I have no intention of joining the argument, but i will say this:
Regardless of what words are allowed and aren't, it's never gonna be taking away the ability to offend you. I believe your intention isn't to provide a "safer" place for you and your friends, you just want to see others punished because someone was offended.
I wish you luck on your crusade, but being offended isn't the end of the world. You get mad, you eventually get over it and become a stronger person in the process. If you want to stop at step 1, that's your choice, but i believe it makes life a lot more difficult.
I do hope this gender identity thing will stop being a novelty soon so people can just choose their preferred one and go back to being a normal person.