@Redex Right, so enjoying your character in all aspects of the game, the way you want to, just wouldn't work, because on your end you'd know that greyed out character, or the character using basic starting outfits, passed level 80 is doing something wrong, at least in your mind. That's how this reads to me my guy. If it's out of sight, it's out of mind, and that's a you issue. A few things make me uncomfortable in some MMO games, but I don't impose my will upon others. I leave them be, and leave the area. Its called being an adult, and having thick skin. I don't like hearing two guys in a game lobby, talk about all of their planned private bedroom affairs later in the day, that said, I respect others enough, to simply leave when something like that happens, and that's if I'm not their friend. If I am their friend, I tell them to get a room. It breaks the ice, and they drop topic.
Point is you have options in situations like these, but you are steadfastly refusing to use them.
Whereas we on the opposite end of this debate, don't have choices or options. We get what we are given, and that's not fair.