@Maddoc I am so sorry for your loss.
There is no need to apologize! Gaming takes up a large portion of my life, too, and real life tends to seep into the virtual worlds we share with one another. It can be so hard moving on when dealing with grief like you are, but I want you to know that if you're looking for friends and an in-game place to call home, we may be the right group for you.
I have over a dozen real life friends that started gaming together in the early days of EverQuest, including my husband. We had a lot of fun for a few years, sharing both in-game and real-life accomplishments and milestones along the way.
And while most of us have drifted apart and/or moved on to different games, some of our fondest memories still live on with us today as an unforgettable experience.
It was not until the Corona and moving across the country that we found ourselves in an exciting new game, isolated with little social activity otherwise.
I do not pretend to speak for everyone in our alliance, but our intention for this alliance is to be a place of support and friendship that lasts for the foreseeable future. Even if most of our activities and conversations are focused on the game, we value friendship and loyalty over pixels and loot.
We will probably never be a top-ranking alliance because that is not what drives us and keeps us together. To put it simply, we are here because we share a common bond through our love for the game, and seek long standing companions to share our adventures within this world.
We know who we are, and that we are not going to appeal to every type of player. And that is okay! We want everyone to enjoy themselves as much as possible. If what makes us happy is the same thing that makes you happy, we will probably be a good fit together!
You are welcome to give us a try, and I look forward to meeting you in-game whether we are in the same alliance or not.